Why would you?
- I have never been able to understand the idea of changing your name to your husband's. Firstly you have all the hassle of having all your documentation in different names. But mostly I just don't understand why it is romantic to change your name to your husband's ie change who you are going into marriage, while he supposedly changes nothing at all. It also drives me crazy that all my friends change their names the minute they get married and then I have no idea who they are (this is worse on facebook when you are friends with a bunch of people and all of a sudden you have no idea who they are!). I dont think marriage is any less romantic or meaningful or that you are any less the same "family" if you have different names.
- —Guest Rae
Hyphenating my name
- I was very confused as to what to do but I have decided to hyphenate my name. In everyday situations I will use his but for legal/government issues it will be hyphenated. I am proud of my family and I feel changing my name totally, I will be a lost link in the chain. I eventually want to get my PhD so I want my family and our new family to take joy in having a PhD in the families.
- —Guest NavWall
Adding my Fiance's Name onto my Name!
- We are getting married in 3 months, and I will be taking on my husband's name. For me, marrying him means marrying into his family and therefore taking on the responsibilities of his lineage. I'm excited about that (plus I love his name!) and want to be unified with him. As for my current name, that will be converted into my middle name when married.
- —Guest Jess
Roper or Isaacs - Undecided
- I like my current name, but my husband wishes me to change it to his. He's never spoken favorably about his name, and I can see where the lack of love for it quickly and easily comes in. I LOVE the last name from my parents. Isaacs means laughter and it goes so well with my first name, Joy, but I also would wish to change my name to my husband's 1) out of respect and 2) to "solidify the deal" - as it were. --To even more so prove my commitment and "the joining of two bodies." The wedding was yesterday evening, so I really should have my mind made up about this already.
- —Guest Joy Renee Roper or Isaacs
Changing my name!
- To me, it's a mark of respect and love to change your name. I looked at my fiance 3 days after he proposed and said 'You're gonna change my name!' and he was positively giddy about it. He actually giggled at the idea. I come from an old-fashioned family - no woman in my family has ever NOT changed her name, not even 2nd marriages or late marriages. No hyphenations, either. Now, I respect those that do it - I could feasibly hyphenate. But my parents have a son, they don't need me to carry on the family name. So I see no need. And someone else said 'don't do it if you have a past'. I have a past - she's sitting in the next room coloring. She too will eventually carry my fiance's name - as soon as we can legally sever ties with her birth father. I believe it's not just a romantic gesture - it's part of the experience, hassles and all, to change your name.
- —Guest Michelle
A New Me
- The married me shall carry the married me name! My husband-to-be left that decision for me. He did expressed that he would like for me to have his name and I want my husband's name. If anyone is unsure, I say...keep yours and just add his to it. Cake with the cherry on top!
- —Guest Joy
Name change delay?
- I've been married for 2 years..second marriage. Have 2 kids from previous marriage. I originally thought I would wait until kids out of school..before changing to new married name. Or would it be best to hyphenate name with old married name and new married name? I don't want my kids to mess with name issues in school..yet I am not fond of still having my exhusbands last name...AT ALL. Suggestions?
- —Guest Barb
Do I change it??
- I am currently in a relationship where marriage is being discussed. He knows that I was married before and that it was very difficult for me to change my last name. Last night he told me that if I want to keep my last name that he wouldn't mind. The pressure of not having to change my last name is a relief. So now that there is no pressure I don't mind so much about changing my name that I have had for 26 years to his. I guess we will see what decision I make.
- —Guest Mullet_9009
Kept Name
- My hubby & I got married 01/01/06. It was my FIRST marriage at age 36 !! I decided it would be easier to keep my name....Since I'd had it 36 years already !! I Didn't have to change EVERYTHING ( license, passport, credit cards, bank accounts, property , social security....and the list goes ON....). My hubby didn't mind one bit !! It was a 2nd marriage for him....20 years the first time around for him !! We are living Happily Ever After !!
- —andreanixon1
No name change for me
- I legally changed my name nine years ago. Although I'm getting married in October, I have no plan to change my name again. However, my fiance is changing his name.
- —Guest Jade Walker
Each to her own :)
- I had gotten all my credentials under my prior name, but when my now-husband said to me during these discussions "I am so proud you would want me to be your husband that I wish you would take my name", I finally understood what needed to happen for us. Haven't regretted it for a minute, and to be honest, now that I know how he feels, it makes me proud to carry his name as I go about my professional life.
- —tekkygal
name changes
- name changes are romantic and lovely -- and financially/legally the stupidest thing you could possibly do. YOU want to be married forever -- what about your spouse? when that new guy or gal comes along? when he goes postal and you want to forget the greatest love of your life is an ax-murderer. when suddenly you are overwhelmed with great anxiety cos every breath you take is tied to his. it's lovely and romantic and great and MIGHT work if you're 15 when you're married and have no past/no monetary worth. if you have debts, and ESPECIALLY if you have equities, mark my words you will regret any name changes. people will KNOW you as mrs. whomever. but have them put the check in your maiden name.
- —only1emmapeel
Hyphenated name
- I am planning to hyphenate my name. Fortunately, my name is only two syllables and his is just one, so it's not like the name will be overwhelming to say or write. I like the fact that I am keeping something that I've had for my whole life, but just adding something new to it. I am still me, but I am also embarking on a new life.
- —Guest Beth
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