So, with our seventh anniversary rolling around, why not a third wedding to reaffirm our love and refute the infamous seven-year itch?" Why not a vow renewal in Mexico at the Iberostar Paraiso Maya, where wed already been and loved?
I emailed the resorts wedding planner, Lizzette Del Rosario in Mexico. Indeed, she responded, one of the resorts ceremony packages is designed for couples who want a vow renewal. The Blessing package is similar to a wedding, only its not legally binding, with no three-day residency or blood test required. After all, before a vow renewal, a couple is already married.
Lizzette emailed me further details about having a vow renewal at Iberostar Paraiso Maya on the Riviera Maya in Mexico. The reasonable price ($1,400 in 2006) includes tax and tips and up to 8 adult guests.
Each extra adult costs $17 more; kids under 12 are free. Group room rates may be available. (A child-friendly resort like the Iberostar Paraiso Maya is an ideal vow renewal destination for couples who want to bring their kids or extended families to Mexico.)
The vow renewal packages cover a non-denominational minister, beach or indoor setting, basic flowers, bridal-look or Mexico style decorations, champagne, wedding cake, recorded music (Lizzettes many selections or your own CD), couples gifts like T-shirts and wine, and a festive dinner for your vow renewal party at a resort restaurant.
Lizzette offered, but did not push, upsells for our vow renewal in Mexico. Couples could go for more flowers and live musicians (choices include a five-piece mariachi band or classical trio). They could buy a professional photo package and/or a DVD video; both are popular picks. Many knot-tiers opt for treatments and beauty services at the resorts new spa.
Larger groups who come to this Mexico resort for a wedding or vow renewalRichard and I were coming solooften spring for a pre-ceremony cocktail party at $7 per person per hour. (The tab is low because all-inclusive resort rates already cover booze).
Five to ten couples hold a vow renewal every month at the the resort; May is the busiest time. Most twosomes choose the beach venue and arrive in Mexico with extended families in tow.
Could couples hold their ceremony any time? Yes, but cooler, photo-conducive late afternoon is best. What do couples wear? Anything, Lizzette said; vow renewal ladies have already done their white-satin thing. Just make sure you have the right shoes.
And what about the actual vow renewal ceremony? Lizzette emailed me the ministers standard, somewhat impersonal spiel. She encouraged us to contribute our own words: either a paragraph for the minister to read, or vows or poems that we could recite during the ceremony or the toast.
I found this setup very sensible. The point of a vow renewal is to rejoice in your own, unique marriage-in-progress. The more individual the ceremony, the more meaningful and memorable.
Richard and I scheduled our Blessing Vow Renewal Package for 5pm on the beach, with our own CD music (a Ben Webster saxophone ballad). We wrote several lines of text to read aloud, about how much we disagree but then get over it with love and tolerance.
Everything went smoothly in Mexico on the day of our vow renewal. The weather was perfect, I got the flowers to stay in my hair, and the minister, Santiago Caranza, had perfect English and a sense of humor. (We met with him before the ceremony to go over our vows and mentioned that we like the resorts peppery Mexican food. During our ceremony, he improvised jokes about our spicy marriage.)
Fact is, no already-wedded Señor and Señora need a vow renewal. But its fun, and romantic, and makes a Mexico vacation unforgettable. Its an investment in bondsyour marriage bonds.
The vow renewal looked like an even better deal considering all the hours Lizzette spent emailing us lists and jpegs and patiently answering questions about Mexico customs and the vow renewal ceremony itself. Then she went over everything for an hour when we arrived, and spent two hours by our sides on the afternoon of our ceremony.
One vow renewal later, Richard and I now have been married on tres occasions. Three times must be a charm, because were planning on staying hitched.
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