Notice I said "honeymoon" -- not "honeymoon night." If you're expecting fireworks and multiple orgasms to take place during the evening directly following your wedding, I advise you to lower your expectations before you come to bed.
Here's why you could be setting yourself up for disappointment: The tension and anxiety leading up to the actual ceremony, the exhaustion that comes from hosting your friends and family at the event (even the ones you're not wild about), the weakness that can come from not eating all day (or drinking a bit too much), and the stress that accompanies travel can lead to honeymoon sex that fizzles -- or no sex at all on that first night.
Agree ahead of time to take the pressure off. Lots of couples now settle in for a wedding after-party (or honeymoon pre-party), where they hole up in a hotel room with just a few close friends, change into comfortable clothing, and relive the event while it's still fresh in everyone's mind.
The Good News About Honeymoon Sex
Once the ink is dry on your marriage license, you’ve got a lifetime ahead of you to practice, starting with the remainder of your honeymoon — and then all the passionate years ahead. One of the reasons most people prefer an easy-going honeymoon is that it gives them the leisure to be intimate and make love without interruption.
If you've already been lovers before the wedding, you've had time to explore one another's body and learn the types of touches that please and excite. On your honeymoon, you may want to enhance the experience by having sex in a different place (lots of couples believe sex on the beach is a romantic rite of passage) or packing a few small and portable sex toys in your suitcase.
If you've waited until your honeymoon to have sex, you may want to brush up on the act of love. To get info on virginity, first-time sex, and health issues relating to honeymoon sex, start with these topics on About.com:
- What is a Hymen?
- What is Honeymoon Cystitis?
- Female Body and Sex - info on anatomy, pleasure, and birth control
- Men's Health - info on penis size and more
- Sexuality - geared toward sexual health
- Sex Positions - start with the basics on your honeymoon, and graduate to more unique poses -- you've got a lifetime to practice!
- Marriage - info on marriage, sex, and emotional intimacy.
Simply looking for sweet and seductive ideas? See "Enhance Romance" to make your honeymoon or romantic getaway unforgettable.